Thank you. You’re welcome.

At Re-find, we like to keep things simple, so when someone says “thank you,” we respond with “you’re welcome.” We once had the very bad habit of responding “no problem” or “my pleasure” or “sure thing,” but we’ve worked diligently to break ourselves of it.

In fact, we’ve made it a bit of a game with our friends who know the rule of thumb or those who, like us, are trying to re-find our charm in this area.

While it’s fine to add any of those to “you’re welcome” it’s just good manners to say or write that simple response, because the others alone can come off as dismissive. If you’ve done something nice enough to be thanked, clearly you care enough to properly acknowledge the gratitude.

Cheers!

M

When you say I do, don’t do this …

In the world of wedding etiquette, there are a lot of do’s and don’ts. We could literally write volumes, and likely will over time, but since you are probably reading this at work, we’ll narrow this particular entry down to the top do’s and don’ts every bride should memorize.

For this task, we consulted with the lovely and talented Denise Silverman CEO of CLINK, a full-service event production agency that designs and coordinates special events, such as weddings. We’ve turned to Denise on myriad event issues over the years and she always has the answers.

So brides, take Denise’s advice and your wedding is sure to go off with the only hitch being the new one between you and your groom.

Denise Silverman’s top three do’s and don’ts of wedding etiquette:

Do’s:
1-Do: make it about your guests. It’s your wedding and it should reflect your tastes and style. But make sure your guests are comfortable and happy. Fabulous and plentiful food. Comfortable accommodations. Great music. etc.
2-Do: write your thank you notes in a timely manner.
3-Do: double-check all spellings for your invitations. How embarrassing it would be to spell the name of your venue wrong?
4-Do: Check Crane’s Blue Book for all modern invitation etiquette. Don’t make up your own wording without checking on modern rules of etiquette.

Don’ts:
1. Don’t: put “children not welcome” on your invitations. The names on the envelope indicate who is invited (and not invited) to the wedding. You can also spread the word by word of mouth. Finally, if someone responds and puts their children’s names in the response, you may offer up some names/numbers for reputable babysitters.
2. Don’t: include your gift registries on your wedding invitations. This is TACKY.
3. Don’t tell your caterer you have fewer guests attending in order to pay less money. Running out of food is tacky and makes you and the caterer look bad.

Thank you for sharing your expertise Denise!

Cheers!

M

Thank you for the interview

During recent conversations with various professional women in our Re-find circle, we were disappointed to learn that sending a thank you note post-job interview seems to have fallen out of favor. Not only that, but many interviewees are also forgoing even a simple follow-up e-mail to thank the interviewer for her time.

Simply put, it’s good business to send a thank you note to the interviewer.

Regardless whether or not you ultimately get the job, it shows that you value the time of the person with whom you interviewed, which is always a good thing. This quick and easy gesture could also give you the edge by keeping you in the interviewer’s mind or, if you are competing against candidates with the same qualifications, it could be the one thing that makes you stand out.

An e-mail will suffice, but even better is an e-mail plus a handwritten thank you note on simple, professional stationery. We like to take notecards with us to the interview, then write the note out in the car immediately following the meeting and pop it in the mailbox on the way home or to our next destination. That way, your enthusiasm and memory of the meeting are fresh.

Keep the note short, sweet and simple. For example:

Mrs. Scott,

Thank your for taking time out of your busy schedule to meet with me. I enjoyed learning more about Company Inc., and look forward to the opportunity to share my talent and experience with your team.

Sincerely,

Jill Williams

Feel free to be slightly more specific, but remember to keep the note brief, sincere and to the point. Good luck in your job search, but as with every situation, just be yourself and say please and thank you, the rest will take care of itself.

Cheers!

M

Do you have a business etiquette question? Leave a comment or e-mail it to charmfinder@gmail.com.